A rainbow baby is a healthy baby born after loss due to miscarriage, ectopic or molar pregnancy, stillbirth, or neonatal death. If you have lost a baby and are considering pregnancy, you might wonder: Will it be different this time?
It is normal to have mixed feelings about becoming pregnant again. You may be afraid of more losses. Or, you may want to try as soon as possible. You may feel sad and worried. Or, you may feel guilty about wanting another baby.
Take time as you think about your next pregnancy. Talk with your partner, medical provider, and close friends. You want to grieve your loss and be emotionally ready before you become pregnant again. Also, your body needs time to recover. The best time frame depends on several factors that your provider will discuss with you.
Before the Next Time
Here are some important things you can do before you get pregnant again:
Get a checkup to make sure you are healthy and your body is ready.
Take a multivitamin every day with folic acid, which cells need for healthy growth and development.
Get to a healthy weight by eating healthy foods and drinking plenty of water.
Do something active every day.
Don’t smoke, drink alcohol, or use harmful drugs.
Talk to your medical provider about medicines you take, your family medical history, and any medical conditions that might affect your pregnancy like diabetes or high blood pressure.
If you are experiencing any signs of lingering depression, talk to a counselor.
Every pregnancy is different. Having a baby after a loss can bring hope and healing, but, if you continue to feel grief, that’s okay. Consider professional counseling, find a community of women who have had a similar experience, or share your own story. All of these things can be helpful as you look to the future.
Tennessee Family Doulas would love to talk with you! Besides our own personal experiences, we have walked with many women through seasons of grief and joy. We would be honored to walk with you, too.